What’s in a Name?

14 Jan
Photograph by Photography by Jo Go

Photograph by Photography by Jo Go

A lot!

Mr. N and I place great importance on the words we speak and take seriously the privelege of naming our children. Our first child, a son, we have named Nelani. Nelani is a Zulu word for enough. Significant to us at a time that a prominent lesson in our lives is how magnificent God’s provision is. He supplies all of our needs according to his riches in Glory. All we need is in Him. Nelani is this declaration.

Living in Durban, I have come to accept that we like to shorten and nick-name-ify each other’s names and really, I have no problem with that. It’s a way we show affection and familiarity and it’s lovely. I’ve realised that if your name is longer than two syllables your name will most likely be morphed. Nelani is one syllable out of the safety zone, so the fault is ours ;)

Of course Mr. N and I have nicknames for our sweet boy, but we are also mindful to call him by his God-inspired name often too. That’s all I ask. That every now and then (and not as an indication of trouble), Nelani’s powerful name be used in its full three syllable form. A name full of significance and is music to our first-time-parent ears.

Be Pampered Spa Give-Away

7 Jan
via Be Pampered Spa Buy One Get One Free FB Page

via Be Pampered Spa Buy One Get One Free FB Page

There are a few things I love more than value. It also gets me jazzed to know that something was created in the spirit of service and assistance to someone else. Be Pampered Spa got its start because the sisters that own it realised that they existed in a stressed out world and that time out to rejuvenate and replenish was a luxury not accessible to too many. This heart warming offering can be found in Westville North, Durban. They have a website, Facebook page and Twitter presence. Most of their packages are buy one get one free and come with a light lunch. I mean. The spa is fully equipped in its simplicity, keeping its focus on providing  the pricey but necessary experience of unwinding. The sisters in generosity typical to them, have given me a treatment to give away to one of you Lovelies. Cherry on the top, you get to bring a loved one with! To enter, simply share this post on any social media platforms you use (Facebook/ Twitter/ Pinterest etc) and tag @pinchosalt on Twitter, A Pinch of Salt on Facebook and let me know who you would enjoy this prize with as your plus-one or who you would give the prize to if that’s what you chose. Me’s thinks this is a fabulous time to be surprised with a spa treatment. Right as we gear up to take on a year filled with possibilities.

Much Love X

A Parisian Elopement

2 Jan

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Oh this couple. Spot on my kinda people. They thought they didn’t want to get hitched, until they discovered marriage was not their problem, a big wedding was. To quote Lauren, the bride, “When we met we both said we weren’t very interested in being married we were happy just to be together – what we soon realised was that it wasn’t that – we just didn’t want a big wedding. We wanted the commitment without the fuss.

Check out their full elopement on the Polka Dot Bride

What do you think of elopements?
xo

The New Wedding

30 Dec
Queen Victoria

Queen Victoria

Whilst there have been some kick-ass weddings I have had the honour of attending, I keep circling to the thought that had I to do all over again, I would definitely elope. I was 24 when I married, and whilst I knew I didn’t want to get caught up in the trappings of a ‘traditional’ do, I wish I had delved deeper into the possibility of an elopement and all it would have meant for us. We loved our 80 guest morning high-tea celebration to bits, but being the woman I am now, I would definitely have made bolder choices, and these are some of my reasons:

By the time we celebrated our marriage in March, Mr. N and I were already married for two months because we tied the knot at Home Affairs. I would have just done the Home Affairs portion better. An incredible dress, photographer and amazing meal would have made me more happy than you know.

Weddings as we know them are themselves the heritage of non-conformists, as in the case of Queen Victoria’s marriage to Albert in 1840, Victoria insisted on donning a white dress instead of the traditional blue at the time.

For everything weddings are, they are still an expensive few hours. For everyone involved, guests included!

The only aspect of today’s traditional wedding that resonates with me is the coming together of a community to wish a new family well and celebrate an institution I love!

A Pinch of Salt is a blog about celebrating and supporting better alternatives, alternatives and practices that take into account the whole person. In the case of weddings, the person before, during, and after ‘the big day’. Too often, weddings are a heavy burden that are more trouble than they are worth. For couples with greater value in doing it differently, for whatever reasons.  For couples seeking a lighter load, I will be sharing on lighter weddings more often. If this is your vibe, follow along on Pinterest too.

THE Spicegoddess Event

17 Dec
via @HenreB

via @HenreB

The THE in the title is just so when the Spice Goddess Events blow up and take over the country, it is noted that the first was the bar.

A few hand selected Durban bloggers gathered at Be Pampered Spa for a day of inspiration and pampering courtesy of Spice Goddess. I was blessed to be one of the bloggers in attendance and can tell you, I left thoroughly pampered and inspired. I am telling everyone that will listen, about the transformational pedi I received. A pedi shared is a pedi exponentially more enjoyable. Insert Fuze Tea Cocktails (going to do a post about these – SO good) on demand, titillating girl talk, the skills of a professionally trained therapist and you have the perfect pass time.

via @noodlesndoodles

via @noodlesndoodles

Verushka of Spice Goddess has a heart for empowerment and inclusion, which is what made this event special. She teamed up with the talented Sue Levy to spread their message of self-love fulfilled so we can more fully love others.

via @sue_levy

via @sue_levy

Their choice of venue was spot on with their message. I am still just amazed at what Be Pampered Spa was set up to achieve and how they serve in this special and unique way. This special spa is for the people. It’s founders, the famous Mystic Sisters, consult in matters of emotional wellbeing. They often advised their clients to de-stress but soon realised that a spa day was not as accessible as it was necessary for so many in our busy, full and stress filled lives. So they created the change they wanted to see. A spa for the people. A place accessible enough that money would not be the reason stress is not managed. So admirable.

Be Pampered Spa have given me a package to give away! Look out for the Give – Away in the new year. I want to place it so you’re invigorated to live your best life in 2015. Spoiler alert, you get to bring a partner! So check in often and start thinking about who you’re going to bring along should you win ;)

I hope a Spice Goddess Event makes its way to you soon and that it is as enriching as it was for me.

Much Love

xo

Keep It Simple this Silly Season

10 Dec
just a dream by Adrian Limani

just a dream by Adrian Limani

Hey There! I just wanted to reach out in the noise you may be surrounded by and remind you that this season is a happy time to be spent reflecting, resting, preparing, releasing, loving and being kind. To yourself and others. You’ve made it to the end of a cycle. What have you learned, what needs to change? Take stock, gather yourself and your thoughts.

What I mean to say is, STAY OUT OF DEBT (all the kinds – emotional, physical, financial, spiritual) ;) Keep focused on where you’re going and how you’re getting there. Don’t get swept into the marketing. There is absolutely nothing you need to do or get to be happy. Everything you need and desire is attainable from within. Look there to fulfill your dreams, visions, WISH LIST.

I had one of my best years, ever. My life expanded to embrace the greatest gift I have ever received. Being a mother has enhanced who I am and who I hope to be. I have taken it easy on myself (for the most part), and allowed this incredible time with a baby be all I am about. There were times I felt the world (opportunities, work, laundry, socials, coffees, relations etc.) would have all moved on without me. I would then be reminded that this precious time is fleeting, never to be repeated with this particular Spirit in this particular form, at this particular time. Opportunities abound. Love infinite and our time here finite. Happiness begins when we mute the noise and connect with the authentic.

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Merry Christmas. May 2015 be your most prosperous, holistically fabulous year yet. All my Love,

Thina

xoxo

Our Blessing Way Baby Shower

23 Jul
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Photography by Jo Go

To be clear, I don’t know that my baby shower resembled a Blessing Way, other than that it surely was a way we were blessed at the outset of our new journey. I was very apprehensive about having a baby shower for a few reasons, some of which were :

a) I didn’t want to put people out by having them schedule a Saturday away from their preferred down-time

b) I didn’t want to put people out by adding an expense to their budgets (for travel, a gift etc)

c) The idea of being the center of attention in a celebratory setting always feels strange to me, until I redefine it for myself

So when it became clear that my Darling BFF would not let up about hosting a baby shower for me, I set about figuring out what I would love from such a celebration, redefining what I thought it to be so I was comfortable with having one thrown for me.

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My wish list included these fundamental nonnegotiable’s :

a) The loved-ones throwing my party would not feel strain putting the party together (financial or otherwise)

b) I would not be outfitted or dressed up as a baby or in anything other than my own grown-up clothes

c) Gifts were not to be the centre of the party, were not to be a prerequisite for attendance and would not be ceremoniously opened and discussed

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With my conditions met, I began to feel excited about my upcoming baby shower! I had visions of my loved ones and I gathered in the name of the celebration of new life.

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To say my baby shower surpassed all my lofty wishes would not do justice to the account. It was one of the best days of my life. It was so so so special. Why my baby shower was the best I’d ever attended :

1) It was held on the same weekend as our wedding four years earlier and was the first time many of my loved ones were all gathered since.

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2) Everyone was glowing in white and I wore my chosen birth colour of green, symbolising light, purity and life.

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3) A large number of our loved ones travelled from far, wide and near to be there with us

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4) Loved ones that were unable to attend sent their best wishes and gifts anyway (this really meant an incredible amount to us, how thoughtful our friends are)

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5) The incredible gifts we received set us up beyond our wildest wishes

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6) The programme was super relaxed with the only ‘formality’ being each guest presenting me with a lit candle while they shared their blessing for me, our baby and our birth.

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Our friends and family reduced us to tears, not only with their heartfelt blessings, but by the gifts we received! We wanted for nothing when our precious Baby N arrived and I cannot express enough how incredible this was for us. In conclusion I humbly emphasise with a grateful heart, just how important these kinds of events are. To look around at my life and see the love in gifts and blessings beaming back at me is something I wish for every new parent.

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