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The New Wedding

30 Dec
Queen Victoria

Queen Victoria

Whilst there have been some kick-ass weddings I have had the honour of attending, I keep circling to the thought that had I to do all over again, I would definitely elope. I was 24 when I married, and whilst I knew I didn’t want to get caught up in the trappings of a ‘traditional’ do, I wish I had delved deeper into the possibility of an elopement and all it would have meant for us. We loved our 80 guest morning high-tea celebration to bits, but being the woman I am now, I would definitely have made bolder choices, and these are some of my reasons:

By the time we celebrated our marriage in March, Mr. N and I were already married for two months because we tied the knot at Home Affairs. I would have just done the Home Affairs portion better. An incredible dress, photographer and amazing meal would have made me more happy than you know.

Weddings as we know them are themselves the heritage of non-conformists, as in the case of Queen Victoria’s marriage to Albert in 1840, Victoria insisted on donning a white dress instead of the traditional blue at the time.

For everything weddings are, they are still an expensive few hours. For everyone involved, guests included!

The only aspect of today’s traditional wedding that resonates with me is the coming together of a community to wish a new family well and celebrate an institution I love!

A Pinch of Salt is a blog about celebrating and supporting better alternatives, alternatives and practices that take into account the whole person. In the case of weddings, the person before, during, and after ‘the big day’. Too often, weddings are a heavy burden that are more trouble than they are worth. For couples with greater value in doing it differently, for whatever reasons.  For couples seeking a lighter load, I will be sharing on lighter weddings more often. If this is your vibe, follow along on Pinterest too.


Keep It Simple this Silly Season

10 Dec
just a dream by Adrian Limani

just a dream by Adrian Limani

Hey There! I just wanted to reach out in the noise you may be surrounded by and remind you that this season is a happy time to be spent reflecting, resting, preparing, releasing, loving and being kind. To yourself and others. You’ve made it to the end of a cycle. What have you learned, what needs to change? Take stock, gather yourself and your thoughts.

What I mean to say is, STAY OUT OF DEBT (all the kinds – emotional, physical, financial, spiritual) 😉 Keep focused on where you’re going and how you’re getting there. Don’t get swept into the marketing. There is absolutely nothing you need to do or get to be happy. Everything you need and desire is attainable from within. Look there to fulfill your dreams, visions, WISH LIST.

I had one of my best years, ever. My life expanded to embrace the greatest gift I have ever received. Being a mother has enhanced who I am and who I hope to be. I have taken it easy on myself (for the most part), and allowed this incredible time with a baby be all I am about. There were times I felt the world (opportunities, work, laundry, socials, coffees, relations etc.) would have all moved on without me. I would then be reminded that this precious time is fleeting, never to be repeated with this particular Spirit in this particular form, at this particular time. Opportunities abound. Love infinite and our time here finite. Happiness begins when we mute the noise and connect with the authentic.

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Merry Christmas. May 2015 be your most prosperous, holistically fabulous year yet. All my Love,



And in Other News, Things We Should Celebrate

17 Jul
Image taken by Mr. N

Image taken by Mr. N

Did you know that I am not a big wedding person? Well, not in the traditional sense anyway. I was very excited to marry my husband and celebrate it, but the idea of a wedding did not appeal to me. That is when I realised that by definition, a wedding  (via Google)  is a marriage ceremony, esp. considered as including the associated celebrations. So you see, a wedding is any celebration associated with a marriage ceremony. No prescription as to what is to be worn, the number of guests, location, or activities. Well. Once I understood that I didn’t have to celebrate the same way (more or less) as everyone else, I was giddy with excitement when I considered the possibilities. I had a good, warm laugh reading this article linked by A Cup of Jo, about all the celebrations we might have during the course of our lives, and I must say that I agree with these sentiments. Bachelor parties, where we celebrate the last hoorah of single-hood after some time spent in a serious relationship is a little backward, don’t you think? And why do we give couples that have lived together for some time, dishware? Have some fun considering the possibilities.

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