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Friendship after Marriage : Wisdom and Growing Pains

31 Jul

I am not always very good at friendships and loving people the way they want to be loved, but have been blessed with friendships with phenomenal individuals that don’t hold that against me and are (mostly) lovingly patient towards me. If you have a BFF that’s gotten into a serious relationship whilst you remained single, this one will strike a cord. Add to it, distance and a growing baby bump and the reality of it is magnified. Read A Practical Wedding‘s post on Friendship after Marriage.


Silver Linings Playbook

26 Jul

pinchosalt.wordpress.comWe sat down to watch Silver Linings Playbook last weekend and had never heard of it (hehe, I see now it was quite a hit when released). Mr.N had stumbled on it and thought it sounded like something I’d enjoy, and boy did I. It’s a charming story which develops organically. I really appreciated the way it dealt with mental illness and what it looks like in families. We laughed, considered and I cried. It was a movie that stayed with us all weekend. My heart went through all the motions, it hooked me. So, if you’re looking for something that will engage and leave you with a mixed bag of emotions and thoughts, get this one. Also, how wonderful is it that we, with all our imperfections and issues, have opportunities to heal, grow and be better? Just Wonderful.

The Reality of Divorce

4 Jun
Image from A Practical Wedding

Image from A Practical Wedding

Before we were married, Mr.N and I spent many conversations discussing our deal breakers, our attitudes towards them and divorce. Since marriage I am even more struck by divorce, its roots, process and repercussions. The fact is divorce is a reality. It happens. Have you considered your attitude towards it? What it means, what would cause it in your own life and what you would do if faced with it. Off course, I would not wish divorce on any bright-eyed couple in love, but I do think it should be discussed more by everyone. Even dating couples and seriously by engaged ones. A Practical Wedding featured a beautifully captured account recently that I would like to share with you. This photographic journey of a young wife’s still early venture into divorce certainly got me thinking.


Start with what You Know

11 Oct



8 Oct

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A friend, Tania Oosthuizen, whose wedding was featured here , sent me a quote spoken at her wedding. I thought it was brilliant so here I share 🙂

“My uncle always said that to get married for sex is like flying business class for the peanuts” Pieter Koegelenberg


12 Sep

When your vision isn’t understood, do not forsake it. Dare to do what you know, you know. The best dream encouragement I’ve read this week. Read it here. Aren’t all dreamers fearful adventurers?

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Al-one with Self

14 Aug

Have you ever been surrounded by people and felt utterly alone? Loneliness happens. I believe it’s just a season or moment for you to reflect and look within. It’s a rare opportunity to be one with yourself and figure out where you are and how you’re doing. A good place to re-emerge is amongst good girlfriends. This can be an incredible source of support in your life as a woman, wife, and mother. It’s not always easy to be vulnerable with others because no-one wants to be misunderstood or rejected. Sometimes we are disappointed but it doesn’t mean we’ll never find the support and unconditional love and acceptance found in nurturing female relationships. Be the girlfriend you would like to have and see what happens. Not all relationships are healthy or conducive to where you’re headed. If you find this to be the case when you check yourself, have the self love to gently preserve that which you hold dear, your sense of self.

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