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The New Wedding

30 Dec
Queen Victoria

Queen Victoria

Whilst there have been some kick-ass weddings I have had the honour of attending, I keep circling to the thought that had I to do all over again, I would definitely elope. I was 24 when I married, and whilst I knew I didn’t want to get caught up in the trappings of a ‘traditional’ do, I wish I had delved deeper into the possibility of an elopement and all it would have meant for us. We loved our 80 guest morning high-tea celebration to bits, but being the woman I am now, I would definitely have made bolder choices, and these are some of my reasons:

By the time we celebrated our marriage in March, Mr. N and I were already married for two months because we tied the knot at Home Affairs. I would have just done the Home Affairs portion better. An incredible dress, photographer and amazing meal would have made me more happy than you know.

Weddings as we know them are themselves the heritage of non-conformists, as in the case of Queen Victoria’s marriage to Albert in 1840, Victoria insisted on donning a white dress instead of the traditional blue at the time.

For everything weddings are, they are still an expensive few hours. For everyone involved, guests included!

The only aspect of today’s traditional wedding that resonates with me is the coming together of a community to wish a new family well and celebrate an institution I love!

A Pinch of Salt is a blog about celebrating and supporting better alternatives, alternatives and practices that take into account the whole person. In the case of weddings, the person before, during, and after ‘the big day’. Too often, weddings are a heavy burden that are more trouble than they are worth. For couples with greater value in doing it differently, for whatever reasons.  For couples seeking a lighter load, I will be sharing on lighter weddings more often. If this is your vibe, follow along on Pinterest too.


Simple Wedding Crush

30 Jul

Seriously crushing on the pearls that I discover on Polka Dot Bride. Today’s wedding crush has a beautifully styled bride and a before-message from the groom that makes me smile. He says he isn’t nervous about getting married, just excited. I was a nervous wreck before I saw Mr.N because I don’t enjoy being the centre of attention in the least! Once he was with me, I felt better. Elopements are my best! Isn’t it sweet how once he pronounces the couple married, the officiant disappears? #Winning

Simple Wedding Crush

4 Jul


I am in love with how calm, natural, at ease and in the moment this couple (especially the bride) looks.

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Polka dot bride featured a PHE.NOM.ME.NAL wedding the other day. The smart couple had their intimate family witness the promise of their union before they sat down to a sumptuous meal, great drinks and dancing. How amazing?! Mr N and I did half of this. Before our celebration in March, we were married at Home Affairs in January of the same year. After our signing, we were hosted at a celebratory tea and cake by my folks with exceedingly immediate family. Truth be told, if I had it to do over again, apart from straight up eloping, I would organise a better dress and a professional photographer. So very grateful there are others that have priorities in a similar order to mine. It’s reassuring 🙂


Gold Inspiration

24 Jun


Do you remember my first ode to gold? I mentioned that it was a recent fascination and that I would post more on this fabulous hue. I came across a cool inspiration shoot on Green Wedding Shoes and was delighted to learn it was locally produced and shot by South African vendors in Cape Town. Have you seen it? Two ticks for this proudly South African shoot, drenched in Gold.

Gold wedding dress?! Would love to see more of that on the scene.

Simple Wedding Crush

18 Jun

I haven’t yet featured my own wedding on this blog, for that I apologise. I will get to it soon. As well as posting images of our first house turned into a home (haven’t forgotten I promised to do so).

Today, I share a wedding I have a SERIOUS crush on. It makes my heart sing a beautiful song. This couple rock my world and their incredible details, outfits and natural photo’s (I personally struggle with the whole posing thing so we didn’t do it at our celebration and love the results). Those shoes. That dress with pockets!!!

As a fan of Erin Boyle and her work, her and her husband’s wedding looks and feels like the perfect reflection of their relationship. I feel the love seeping through these images and details. The simplicity of their choices allows the joy to be highlighted and the importance of their union is captured without clutter.

For more pictures and details, please visit the brides blog post about their wedding over on Reading My Tea Leaves .


The Questions of How and Why

22 Feb

When Mr.N and I got engaged, we had to start making plans to plan our wedding. Our discussions covered varied celebrations, from church held ceremony and tea, to hiring a small jazz lounge for an informal dinner dance. I felt very isolated by our views because most thought we were loony and misguided. Because of our less than conventional approach to the whole engagement, weddings and marriage thing, we didn’t find support or ideas in our immediate community. I went online to find inspiration and examples of what I was convinced were reasonable alternatives. My question then and my question now, is what informs the way we live our lives? From the partner we pick to the type of house we buy. It seems popular trends weigh heavily in the decisions we make daily. Why not go within and ask what feels right, good and comfortable for you? Why not have a few friends and family jump into a bus that takes you on a wine tasting journey through a wine region, where you are say, married at the first farm, first speech over cheese and wine at the second farm, another speech at the next farm that caters a sumptuous meal and a final farm where desert is enjoyed before the bridal couple are whisked away for a quiet solo dinner to marinade and glow in the momentous occasion that resulted in the marriage of souls. Why don’t we start with who we are, and let our individual creativity dictate the way we celebrate and live? I think tradition plays a big part in it. Maybe I am just not as traditional as most? And perhaps people would like to give their guests the comfort of predictability? I hope this post doesnt offend anyone. I’m just fascinated at how little variance we find in our individual lives and wonder why.


12 Sep

When your vision isn’t understood, do not forsake it. Dare to do what you know, you know. The best dream encouragement I’ve read this week. Read it here. Aren’t all dreamers fearful adventurers?

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