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A Parisian Elopement

2 Jan

APOS Blog Holistically Fabulous

Oh this couple. Spot on my kinda people. They thought they didn’t want to get hitched, until they discovered marriage was not their problem, a big wedding was. To quote Lauren, the bride, “When we met we both said we weren’t very interested in being married we were happy just to be together – what we soon realised was that it wasn’t that – we just didn’t want a big wedding. We wanted the commitment without the fuss.

Check out their full elopement on the Polka Dot Bride

What do you think of elopements?


The New Wedding

30 Dec
Queen Victoria

Queen Victoria

Whilst there have been some kick-ass weddings I have had the honour of attending, I keep circling to the thought that had I to do all over again, I would definitely elope. I was 24 when I married, and whilst I knew I didn’t want to get caught up in the trappings of a ‘traditional’ do, I wish I had delved deeper into the possibility of an elopement and all it would have meant for us. We loved our 80 guest morning high-tea celebration to bits, but being the woman I am now, I would definitely have made bolder choices, and these are some of my reasons:

By the time we celebrated our marriage in March, Mr. N and I were already married for two months because we tied the knot at Home Affairs. I would have just done the Home Affairs portion better. An incredible dress, photographer and amazing meal would have made me more happy than you know.

Weddings as we know them are themselves the heritage of non-conformists, as in the case of Queen Victoria’s marriage to Albert in 1840, Victoria insisted on donning a white dress instead of the traditional blue at the time.

For everything weddings are, they are still an expensive few hours. For everyone involved, guests included!

The only aspect of today’s traditional wedding that resonates with me is the coming together of a community to wish a new family well and celebrate an institution I love!

A Pinch of Salt is a blog about celebrating and supporting better alternatives, alternatives and practices that take into account the whole person. In the case of weddings, the person before, during, and after ‘the big day’. Too often, weddings are a heavy burden that are more trouble than they are worth. For couples with greater value in doing it differently, for whatever reasons.  For couples seeking a lighter load, I will be sharing on lighter weddings more often. If this is your vibe, follow along on Pinterest too.

No Regrets

19 Mar

Image from tanaphotography.com

I would occasionally get a little depro about buckling to pressure and going with popular opinion instead of my gut. When I saw or experienced weddings that have elements that I so wished I had been brave enough to pull off (like eloping), I would get a pang of regret right after ooh-ing and ah-ing at the beautiful bravery of the couple to be authentic. But I have realised that regret is useless and that it changes nothing but tarnishes the experience of a memory. No, that will not be the way I interact with better ways to do something. Instead, I ooh and ah at the element I would have incorporated into my own experience and that is that. The lesson is noted, referenced, and put to use in the next opportunity to make a choice. As long as we do the best we can with what we have at our disposal, regret has no place in our lives. As the incomparable Oprah Winfrey puts it, “when we know better, we do better”

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